Many times when we are angered or offended by someone, our first reaction is to “give them a piece of our mind.” In other words, we want to let the offender know exactly how we feel or what we think about the present situation. Ironically, adamantly sharing these thoughts usually doesn’t diffuse or resolve the issue. Not much can be heard during a conversation hijacked by escalating emotions or escalating voices. How often do we stop to ask the question,” How much differently would this encounter turn out if I don’t share what I am thinking?”
We have all had opportunity to witness a myriad of communication styles as well as varied methods of conflict resolution. Some work, some don’t. Some folks adhere to the “peace at all costs” mindset while others opt to “fight at the drop of a hat.” Whichever you choose, consider that both have consequences. Yes, we may know that our peace has been disturbed but there are so many other factors that we may not know about the situation, the person, or even ourselves. Acknowledgement of the offense de-escalates conflict more often than confrontation. It also validates the ‘humaness’ of everyone involved. Again, we get to choose whether we impulsively react or whether we thoughtfully respond. Furthermore, after repeatedly giving ‘a piece of our mind: what does that leave us? How many ‘pieces can we give away before we are left at a deficit?
Insight Beyond Sight: If I can hold my piece then I can hold my peace.